How to Talk to Anyone at Work: 72 Little Tricks for Big Success Communicating on the Job by Leil LowndesI picked up this book a few months back when starting working and looking for ideas on how to bond with coworkers. I never read much but on a plane ride recently had nothing else so finished it off.
I gotta say this book doesnt have terrible advice but it felt pretty cringy. Its kinda like old timey business full of platitudes. Im sure some places operate like that but everywhere Ive worked has been kind of past many of these tips. That being said the advice is funny and some of it is good.
A few funny or useful ideas:
* Prolong Your Praise. S-t-r-e-t-c-h out your compliment. A simple sentence isn’t enough when a coworker or a report does something you’re grateful for. Go for three sentences minimum! The melody of your protracted praise is sweet music to their ears. Like making love, the longer it lasts, the better it is!
* Stepping closer is an excellent way to mask insecurity or hostility, so, any time anyone at work intimidates or irritates you, just smile slightly and step a tad closer.
* Avoid weakening words like Ill try
* Hemophiliacs are people who bleed profusely when their skin is pricked. Everyone you work with has a comparable condition... they bleed emotionally when anyone punctures their ego
* Dont smile too fast
* Dont say but in response to people. Say Yes, and
* Search for solutions before reporting problems
* Keep a daily work diary
How to make small talk at work
If you are working in a traditional office where you see your coworkers every day, there are many opportunities for you to interact with them: walking through the hallway, passing by their offices, visiting their desks, in the kitchen, at the cafeteria, in the elevator, even in the bathroom! In the American workplace, demonstrating your ability to get along with coworkers is considered an important job skill. Americans are known for being friendly and social, and being able to make small talk is one way to show interest in your coworkers and build stronger work relationships. Make sure to show emotion in your voice so that they feel like you are actually happy to see them. You see this person every day, so you probably already know how they are doing, even without asking! They can tell you about a meeting they had or a client they worked with.
I am a big offender with this one. I used to have long angry debates with one of my cube neighbors about everything from social welfare programs to LGBT rights. Not only was it unprofessional, it was also distracting for everyone who I now realize could hear us bickering all day. Plus that irritation spilled over into our professional interactions, too. Some experts feel like office confidences build stronger bonds between team members; others see it as divisive and counterproductive since venting rarely actually leads to positive change or resolution of a tense situation. Bad for relationships and bad for the workplace, blanket accusations like this rarely have positive results. There are more direct ways to voicing your opinion or a differing perspective than this grating correctional phrase.
Job Title, Keywords. City, Province. Of course it would be all too easy to whip out your iPhone and start mindlessly scrolling through your apps but why not challenge yourself and start up a conversation? Never underestimate the power of small talk. Asking a simple question can help you start a conversation. This could be as simple as a cool lunch spot you found near the office or something interesting you heard in the news that day.
How to Start Small Talk in the Office
How do you start a conversation with new people you meet at some event? How do you decide what things to talk about? Or you wait until some of them walk right up to you? For many people, beginning a small talk is a huge problem. Some of my friends cannot even accustom to the idea of talking with a person they do not know close. It is all about the feeling of awkwardness that gives you the creeps. So, when you open your mouth, the first thing that comes to your mind seems stupid.